The Catalyst

Happy New Year’s,


Yes, I realize that it’s a little late but the thought is what counts. I know I’ve been missing in action lately. I decided to take a little time to recharge. Don’t we all get a little lazy during the holiday season? Anyway, congratulations to everyone who made it through 2009. From a general consensus it seems like the last year took its toll on people. Luckily, this is a new year with new possibilities. Out with the old thoughts and behaviors and in with the new. Here’s to hoping you stick to your resolutions.
We all want our new year to go smoothly. To aid with that endeavor I have two bags that I know you carry with you everywhere in which I want you to stop. Inside one of those bags is fear. Love is what should drive you. If you walk in love your days will be a lot easier to live with. If you walk in love you’ll find that you won’t have many enemies. If you walk in love you’ll enjoy your job, family, and life more. Unfortunately for a lot of us fear is the ultimate motivation. Most of us don’t work our job because we love it. We work the job because we’re scared of not getting a paycheck. This is an understandable apprehension. However, you don’t have to work a job you don’t like. Find one you do like. If you can’t find one, start your own business. Make yourself rich instead of someone else. Similarly, a lot of us stay in or return to relationships we know are unsatisfying not because we love the person but because we are afraid of being alone. Some of us are so afraid of solitude that we will put up with (fill in your own blank) from our girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse because although they may be a problem at least they are “my” problem. You need to empty your fear bag. Any gambler will tell you that scared money is no money. A turtle can’t move unless he sticks his neck out. I have a million clichés but my point is you need to take chances. In order to achieve your dreams you have to be willing to put it all on the line. Like Abraham debating on whether to sacrifice Isaac, you have to be ready to give up everything to get what God has for you. Anything you love is well worth the risk. (Note: When I say “God” I don’t mean the god that makes sure rappers and actors get awards nor am I talking about the god that blesses preachers with tailor-made suits and mansions. I’m talking about the real God--the creative energy that makes life possible.)
The second bag that you need to empty out in the new year is filled with your guilt. Guilt is one of the heaviest burdens. Many of us carry years and years of guilt on our backs and wonder why we’re chapfallen*. I find it funny how many of my single church friends feel guilty every time they have sex. I know what its like to have all that passion bottled up. Your hormones are raging and it’s hard to keep your cool when your “cup runneth over”. Personally, I think sex is nature’s call more so than a sin. Humans are the only species that require commitment before sex. We’re also the only species that experiences guilt. Even me, the radical thinking, inspirational soap-box blogger has done, is currently doing, and will, in the future, do things that I’m not proud of. I’ve accepted my imperfections therefore I experience a peace that many won’t understand. I no longer lead a life based of the morality of others. I walk to the beat of my own drum. After 30+ years of existence I’ve decided to live by my own commandments. (<--Arguably the best decision I’ve made.)
The good thing about being human is that we can think. The problem lies in the things we choose to think about. There are many positive and enlightening ideas that we can fill our minds with. Unfortunately, 90% of the ideas that fill our mind is the same recycled trash that has polluted our thoughts for years. With a junky, scattered, and toxic mindset it will be hard to come up with useful ideas for 2010. I touched briefly on fear and guilt but there are a host of negative thoughts that do the electric slide in your head all day long. It’s up to you to change. Recognizing you have a flawed paradigm is not enough. You have to take action and purge or at least drastically reduce your negative thoughts. It is impossible to add new ideas to a mind that is already full. Good Luck in the upcoming year. I have big plans for myself and I want you to have big plans for yourself. Who knows? Maybe our “selves” will meet on the other side of success one day.

“Fear is the tax that conscience pays to guilt.” – George Sewell


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chapfallen /CHAP-faw-lun/ adj. - cast down in spirit: depressed