The Catalyst

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In an age with blogs, TMZ, and camera phones it’s hard for celebrities to keep their personal business private. I know you’ve heard about Jon from the TLC show “Jon and Kate plus 8”. He was busted creeping on his wife and his photo was posted on the cover of magazines and all over the internet. I want to feel sorry for him but I can’t. If you expose your life to the public, how can you be upset when they see the naughty as well as the nice? Of course, you and I don’t have to worry about paparazzi. But there are still threats to our privacy; our biggest threat being our own big mouth.
If you’re like me you hate to be the subject of gossip. I learned over the years that the best way to keep your personal business inconspicuous is to not talk to anybody about it. It sounds simple but you’d be surprise the amount of people who don’t realize that no one can gossip about you if you don’t put your business on the street. Most of the time, we look to seek counsel from our friends, co-workers, and family when it comes to personal issues. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that. But you have to realize that telling somebody a discreet matter is like emailing naked pictures of yourself. Once it’s out there it’s out there forever. You may have said something in confidence but there is no guarantee that your confidant won’t tell someone else. Chances are they will spill the beans depending on how “juicy” the story is. It’s sad because most of the personal crises we deal with are often embarrassing and have long term effects on how others will view us if the truth were ever revealed. But you can’t keep your emotions bottled up. Certain situations are so troubling that you have to tell someone. Or do you?
Admittedly, I’m a severely private person. The only personal business I share is business that I don’t mind the whole world to know. Over the years I’ve shared many things about myself in these Catalysts. But trust and believe that I have certain secrets that are going to follow me to the grave. It’s not necessarily because I think that the truth would alter people’s opinion about me. It’s just none of your business (nothing personal). Sure it may be easy for me to work out my own problems without seeking counsel from family and friends. I read a lot of self help books which coincidently trains me to help myself. And if you would open a book or two you’d learn that you don’t have to seek advice on every single issue that arises in your life. If you gain wisdom through books and experience you’ll learn to be your own best counsel. And let’s be honest, most of us don’t listen to anybody anyway so telling our business is otiose*.
I know life can be stressful and sometimes venting our frustrations, crying on someone’s shoulder, or participating in a prayer group seems like the easiest way of relieving that tension. But you always have to be on guard about how much you share and to whom. Not everyone has your best interest in mind. Not everyone practices restraint when it comes to YOUR privacy. I know that some of you like being the talk of the town and all the drama it brings. You feel that if people are talking about you than you must be important. The reality is the less people know about you the more interesting you seem. Conversely, the more someone knows about you the less interested they become.

“Civilization is the progress toward a society of privacy. The savage's whole existence is public, ruled by the laws of his tribe. Civilization is the process of setting man free from men.” – Ayn Rand


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otiose /OH-shee-ohss/ adj. - producing no useful result: futile